How to Keep Your Standards High

I’ve always had high standards for myself growing up. I must have watched my dad, being an athlete, maintain a certain discipline and consistency to achieve the level of work he put into his wellbeing. You can’t reach those levels of greatness without setting a benchmark for your efforts. The higher you set your standards, the faster and better you are going to grow.

My biggest flaw is that I also hold everyone around me to high standards and even though I give everyone a chance, I expect people close to me to be leveled or levelling.

I am all about planting seeds and I try to inspire through my own actions and lifestyle but if nothing changes over a certain period of time, I will start to lose respect for them. I learned this the hard way when I got myself entangled in an no-growth environment which took me a long time to leave because I was looking at instant gratification, of the time and effort invested.

If you want to change your life, change your environment.

The habits that I spent a decade cultivating were slipping and I was becoming like those around me. I knew it too but it is one thing to know and another thing to be ready to make a change because you have to learn lessons to evolve. I was living in a chronic state of anxiety because no one around me was changing– but that was my own fault because I had to change my environment to change my life. It may take some time and a lot of courage to leave something behind but eventually you will be ready to untangle yourself from that energy and change your life.

Keep your heelhead and standards high.

-Coco Chanel 

The problem with society is that some people will label having high standards as snobby, cocky, arrogant, or an over-inflated ego. That is the difference in mindset between successful and unsuccessful people.

You can either label things you don’t understand to avoid uncomfortable truths or you can reframe it to your advantage.

I KNOW that in order to level up, I need to surround myself with people with high standards. I rarely feel intimidated by anyone because I recognize people who I think are better will inspire me to be better.

I grew up in a healthy + competitive environment. My best friend was always a bit smarter and more popular than me. She was one of those people who everyone gravitated towards because of her energy (where I was more timid and shy back then). I never got jealous of her but remember always wanting to be ‘as good as her’ (eg. when it comes to the number of A’s on our report card). She never knew this growing up because we never talked about it but when I reflect, I have to give her credit for pushing me to do better!

In grade 9, there was a math teacher everyone hated because she was labelled a “mean bitch.” I recall being delighted when I found out I was in her class. Instead of judging her externally, I saw her ruthlessness and directness as someone who can take me to the next level. I was pretty sure I was a warrior in a past life because I’ve always believed in tough love and staying hard. 😇 Unfortunately, that was also the year I learned that I suck at math (thus why I consider myself a creative, lol)! I always felt bad for her but we all know, most teenagers are stupid.

I also had a colleague whom a lot of people didn’t “like” because she was simply a strong and powerful female boss (and I suspect lack of perspective, masculine toxicity, and sexism was involved). I was always defending her when people would say something bad because she wasn’t perfect but at least she tried harder than most people. I recall this one time during a meeting when we were solving a puzzle, she was the first one to come up with the solution. I actually had thought of the same solution but I didn’t have the voice or confidence like her to speak up and lead. I remember being proud of myself because I looked up to her but also realized that I had some work to do to get to her level!

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

How do you perform at work? How are your relationships? How is your fitness routine? How are your eating habits? Do you pay attention to details? Do you remember things or are you forgetful? Do you stay true to your words? How you handle and manage any situation, challenge or experience in your life is how you handle all of them.

What does having high standards mean to me:

  • Being consistent with your words and actions.
  • Following through: if you say you are going to do something, do it.
  • Staying true to your values.
  • Show up in everyyy aspect of your life (health, family, work, friends, relationships).
  • Excellence in everything you do (or at least try to).
  • Everything matters and that nothing is small stuff– it’s all in the details
  • Be able to cut ties with anyone bringing you down.

How to have high standards:

  • Work on personal development every single day.
  • Be confident in yourself that you are putting in the effort to do innerwork.
  • Hold yourself accountable to everything you do.
  • Admit it when you’re not showing up as your best self, and ask yourself how you can do better.
  • Question all your negative thoughts and ask yourself why you feel that way.
  • Whenever you mess up, ask yourself, “how do I do better next time?”

I noticed that people’s standards start to drop once they start getting comfortable. Or when they think they got everything they want and no longer have to ‘work hard’ so they let their guard down and stop growing. What I learned is that when I see drops in consistency, I start to lose respect for those people because I can’t trust them. I am sensitive to energy and learned how to read patterns. If people don’t consistently show up in all aspects of their lives, how do they build rapport?

Keep Your Standards High

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